14 That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;
The purpose is growth of each believer. God never intended for us to get saved and He stay the same. His desire is for each one of us to become the very best Christian we can become. With that comes enormous blessing, responsibility and purpose to our lives. If we stay still, and don’t seek to grow in knowledge and wisdom, we can easily be drawn into false doctrine and away from Christ. That can bring all sorts of trouble to our lives as God tries to draw us back. The best way to avoid conflict is to continually grow in Christ. I am not saying you won’t have conflicts if you are growing, just believe they will be greater if you are not.
Growing in Christ is fairly simple. Seek to be under a ministry that preaches Jesus Christ crucified and risen again. A ministry that believes in the five-fold ministry and it’s purpose. A ministry that is uplifting and feeds your spirit. When you find such a ministry, be humble and teachable to learn all that God has for you. Then seek God for the ministry that He would have you fill. He has a plan for you!
15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ
Once you have found your place, this verse becomes vital. First, speak the truth over your life. Before you were saved, the world filled you with lies about yourself. It may have told you that you were not smart, or not pretty, or not lovable, or many other things to bring you down. Or it may have told you that you are the cat’s meow, the best thing that ever happened to this earth, or someone that is just way cool to build you up. Now it is time to speak the truth to yourself. You know have access to ALL THE PROMISES OF GOD! (caps intentional). You also have a requirement to fulfill the commands of Jesus Christ, which are light burdens. And he will help you all the way. I am not gong to attempt to start listing those promises, but I will mention one. You are a new creature in Christ – old things are passed away and all things are become new (2 Cor 5:17). .
You also must speak the truth to others in love. No more gossip, backbiting or having the pastor for lunch with your words.Minister into their lives with the word of God. Remember, we are here to edify one another. Paul said we should not let any corrupt communication leave our lips, but we should speak words that edify (Eph 4:29). Make sure you are doing your best to speak positive, uplifting things into peoples lives. This is part of your growth process, not theirs necessarily.
As you do these things, you will grow up in Christ, and that is the goal as Christians. Regular, steady growth.
16 From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.
As we all grow individually, we also grow as a body in our local church. We are groomed by God to take our place in that church, whatever vocation He has out us into. Every part is necessary to the whole body. we then encourage one another to be our best at what we are called to do, and he body grows together to minster to those outside the body, which continues this growth cycle. God fits the body together, not man. He places whom He will into your body of believers, and hopefully saints are obedient to His call should hey determiner it is time to move to another body. This happens both in the flesh and in the spirit. we need to pray for, and not judge, those who leave our body for another. All in all, we must keep our focus on our caliing within the church, and endeavor to always do our best to see that our service is glorifying God.